Archive | December 2012

Please Don’t!

Don’t try it, it’s all I have
It will crack, break and become 
Irreparable on the first trial.

Don’t fool it, it grabs and holds on in a minute,
But takes days, weeks and even months 
Just to let go 

Don’t touch it if you don’t mean it
It feels for a lifetime 
Your prints will remain till the end

Don’t tell it what you don’t mean
It echoes and thus fills it up with
Pride you don’t have in it

Don’t misuse it, there’s only one for its life
Don’t laugh at it, laugh with it, and stay with it and in it
It’s my heart and love, its all I’ve got.


The Pursuit of Nappyness

44572_4572522270039_1261210837_nMy hair isn’t long to my butt. It isn’t as soft as a new born baby’s hair. It doesn’t have all the curl definition you can think of. It doesn’t retain moisture at all time… But, don’t mess with my hair/scalp. (I might take you out of business for that… no I’m joking…. not!)

I trust very few people to handle my hair. I trust my former roommate Jody, to work on my hair. I can relax and let very few naturalistas go in my hair.

Oh well, I’ve been visiting this hair saloon for the past two months. The first time I went in there, the lady who dealt with me, was a lil apprehensive of my natural hair.

At first she suggested I put extensions in my hair to make the hair look longer. Nope! (There’s a reason I have my hair natural woman!)

Well, her plea for me to have extensions didn’t work. Next, she took the blow dryer to start blow drying my hair, without my permission. I told her I didn’t want heat on my hair.

Well, my resistance to all her suggestions clearly didn’t settle well with her. Throughout the time I was in her seat, she was everything but gentle with my hair. Well, at some point though, we started having a conversation about something I can’t remember right now. By the time she was done with my hair, I liked the hairstyle she did, and didn’t mind so much the abuse I went through.

I went back to her couple times after that. My last trip being on saturday December 8. Again, she was mean to my hair. This time, my scalp was the main target.

After sitting there for close to an hour, I didn’t like the hair style she did. Plus, my scalp was on fire, I felt like eggs were being fried on it.

I managed to carry the hairstyle for about three days. I took it out today (Wednesday.)

She’s taught me a lesson though, I’ll never continue to sacrifice the health of my hair and scalp for pretty hair styles. I’ll stick to my two strand twist outs and Tiny Winney Afros.

This natural hair journey is no joke!

well, maybe my fellow naturalist Iceta can recommend different styles or a saloon I can trust.



Dear Nigerian Music Industry…

*Disclaimer- I don’t have any degree in music production, the culture of music neither do I have any knowledge of music marketing. However, I do have ears that love to listen to good music. Ears that love to dissect and stitch together good lyrics. Ears that definitely love to pick apart the different instruments in a beat.*

Oya, let’s go there…

Who wouldn’t instantaneously start dancing when “Kukere” by Iyanya starts playing? Or let’s say songs like Davido’s “All Of You,” and the big time “Like to Party,” by Burna Boy? (A couple weeks ago, that was the song I listened to second thing in the morning and second to the last thing before bed at night)

I love me some Nigerian songs. I look for the slightest opportunity to share them with my friends who aren’t Nigerians. I share almost any song from M.I, Asa, Tuface and Nneka. Some other folks I consider from time to time are Brymo, Flavour, Omawunmi, Banky W and Omawunmi. Don’t get me wrong, these are all great musicians.

The other day I got a text message from a friend of mine who is a British Virgin Islander whose second home is London. ( For the past couple years, he’s been staying in London during the summer and runs away as soon as winter shows its dry and cold face. lol. The Island boy can’t take the cold. Oh that’s by the way. He’s a musician by the way. and I’m sure you guys will love his music. He’s the lead singer of Blue Essence ) He was at a local bar here in the BVI and he heard a local DJ playing Oliver Twist by D’Banj. I felt so proud.

See, this friend knew it was a Nigerian song because, he’s heard it from radio stations in London and he’s interacted with me a lot to know Nigerian songs. But my guess is, 99 percent of the folks who were at the bar that night couldn’t tell where the song was from. That is if they were paying keen attention to the song. Oh well, maybe just like me, D’banj’s strong Nigerian accent may have led them to immediately think he had to be from “a country like Africa.”

I’ve shared some songs with my friends and mostly their reaction was “Oh that sounds so Americanized,” or “Did he just say ‘Yea Man?'” or “Is he trying to sound a bit Jamaican?” Mind you, these reactions were like “I’m sort of disappointed.”

I share the same sentiments as these folks sometimes. The music industry in Nigeria has come a long way. It has travelled slowly from days when we heard songs from legends such as Ebenezer Obey, Oliver De Coque, Osita Osadebe, Tilda (can’t remember her last name- She’s the voice behind the classic tune “Sweet Mother”) Fela and Dan Maraya. We’ve come from days of legends to days of some sort of legends like Wizkid, Davido, Skales, Ice Prince, Murna, Eva, Mo’Cheddah and believe it or not, Tonto Dikeh and Terry G and many more. (Not that there’s everything wrong with these folks. I love me some Ice Prince… I mean I almost have no choice. I’m a Jos girl for goodness’ sake)

As I said above, who wouldn’t listen to the latest Nigerian songs and begin to dance? But at the same time who wouldn’t listen to songs like “We are Loyal,” from Ebenezer Obey, or “Afro Juju,” from Sina Peters, and dance even more.

Two weeks ago, I was almost hooked on Burna Boy’s “Like to Party.” As much as I’ve grooved to that song, chances are, in three weeks, I won’t vibe to it anymore. But play any of those old school songs and I shall dance to them till the end of time. (by the way, who remembers Eva Edna with her “Wish You Happy Birthday song?” Mehn, if that song wasn’t being played at any birthday party, you’d think twice about going…lol)

Anyways, I can feel myself ranting (But wait I’ve been doing that from the get go.)

Oh well, If you’ve followed this post this far, you might as well just finish up shey?

Most of the people who I’ve shared Nigerian songs with, liked it but never loved it. Most of them were looking to hear something traditional.

Granted, cultural values all of the world are being lost. On the contrary though, lots of folks I come in contact with daily still believe Africa to have all those old “days of Adam and Eve,” cultural values…(I don’t blame them much if they rely heavily on international news to feed their curiosity…

Chei… Okay, I’m drifting away from my topic fast now…lol

My point is, I’m tired of the tumpam tumpam music now. Give me something I can listen to in 20 years. Something my children can look at as good music. I want to hear the music performed live. Not a bunch of guys with pants below their butts and dark shades at 12 p.m. lip synching to an over produced beat. I want to hear real life vocals not auto tune all the time. I want to see the ladies wear proper clothing again and not the skimpiest of clothing… I want to be able to share “traditional” music with my friends.

Well, on the bright side, I still have people like Asa, Nneka, M.I and Tuface to keep me musically sane when it comes to Nigerian music.

I don’t want any more “Crazically Fit”  songs or keep having “Free Madness” anymore.

Okay I’m done day dreaming…

This has been yet another senseless post…


As usual, I won’t waste your time and mine by giving you not-so-truthful reasons as to why i haven’t blogged in more than two weeks.

Truth is, I’ve just not been moved to tell you guys anything… oh wait! the other truth is, I have lots of  topics to talk about but…. You know, I’ve just been lazy (But then I’m always lazy)

I’m not good at making new year resolutions. I believe whatever “resolutions,” i may have, there’s no better time to start implementing them than now. So, when it comes to my blog, my “New Year Resolution,” for 2013, would be to blog at least once a week. I’ll try do it a lot more than that, but of course there are lots of factors i’ll consider. ( Am I sleepy? Am I in a good mood?… bla bla bla)

As part of this new decision to blog often, I think I’ll like to blog more about my hair. I mean, the thing has a life of it’s own….. I’m sure it could use a different blog address… (Yea, i know that doesn’t make any sense at all.)

And also, I’ll like to blog more about my workout and stuff (Sister has been working her self a lil too hard… This summer body/swimsuit body/Christmas body thing is no joke…. Right now I can’t laugh like other people. The ABs exercise I did days ago is still messing with me.)

Oh… and before I forget, I met a new naturalista yesterday…(Well, i met her in the cyber world even though i’m sure she lives just maybe 10 minutes away from me….lol) She’s got amazing stuff on her blog and she tweets a whole lot about natural hair, and fashion. ( i love reading other girls’ fashion reviews but I think that will be the last thing anyone will read about on this blog. Fashion and I don’t get along well.)

Well, you guys can check her blog out….. I really don’t know if there are any serious naturalistas that read my blog but hey…. She’s got a giveaway coming up soon… If i don’t win any of the items, I hope one of you will!

I’m talking to much again…. This has been yet another senseless blog post 😀

Peace and Blessings (Yes, I’m getting hippy like that…lol No… Just joking.)