I got married to a handsome man today. (Before we adopted western culture, all we needed to testify a marriage was the paying of the bride price/dowry. Mine was paid today, so I’m married)
A few years ago when I began writing about The Nigerian Husband, I wasn’t dating anyone at the time, not to talk of that person being Nigerian. I simply just had fun with the idea of dating a typical Nigerian man, or rather the idea of creating the ideal man in my mind.
Mostly, I created this character of a man who was somewhat traditional yet open minded among others attributes.
After writing about that character for at least four years and laughing at myself along with others, this handsome man who fit allllllll of the characteristics I had written about showed up.
After dating long distance for, say, a year or so, and dating in person for another year, or so, today, December 1, we got married traditionally.
My heart is filled with so much joy and happiness, I’m excited to see all the good things God has planned for the future of the Nigerian Husband and me.
I’ve not written you in quite a while. I’m sure you understand. We’ve both been busy settling into life.
But even through the hustle of this new life, I’ve decided to make life easier for you as well. I guess one of the reasons you’ve not come for my hand in marriage was the distance between us. As your name implies – Nigerian Husband – I figured you’d be in Nigeria. I understand, you might have been fearful of the long flights/two day journey to come from Nigeria to the Virgin Islands to see me. I’ve forgiven you.
But being the good Nigerian wife my mother has been training me to be, one of my sole duties is to Continue reading →
I’m sorry for not writing anything for so long, but please, let’s get to the heart of the matter.
Me and mom during my visit home in 2013.
My older brother was getting married, and me along with other family members were working so hard to get things together.
Preparing for a typical Nigerian wedding means having your friends, neighbors, family, cousins’ friends’ friends gathering in your home to help cook and put final touches in place.
Needless to say, this big crowd usually brings with it unwanted drama and people who don’t care much about you but your food.
My mom being the loving but always “extra” person she is, decided she wanted to Continue reading →